Mastering Your Own Expectations

by Josh Billings on August 27, 2014

My girlfriend and I had been fighting — the frustrating kind, that doesn’t really get anywhere in the moment but stokes your desires for change even more — but we had errands to run that had to be done in the next few hours. I knew we had to switch gears from fighting with each other to working together, but I figured if I brought up the errands she would just argue with me more.

I was much more agitated than she was, but ready to get over it if I could just find a way of interacting with her that wouldn’t piss me off even more. So I started running scenarios through my head until I found an approach that allowed me to broach the subject in a way that would break our current pattern and yield the result I was looking for.

Me: “I don’t think we should run any errands until you’re in a good mood.”

Her: “I am in a good mood. I was in a good mood before you even asked that!”

Me: “I never said you were in a bad mood.”

Her: “–Yes you did!”

Me: “I just phrased my question in a way that would cause you to think I thought you were in a bad mood, so that you would start arguing for how good of a mood you’re in.”

Her: “I’m not arguing.”

Me: “And since I knew you were going to argue with whatever I brought up, I might as well get you to argue for something that I want too.”

Her: “So you were trying to manipulate me?”

Me: “I was manipulating my own expectations.”

Her: “Yes. YOU’RE expectations. That’s what’s been causing this all along.”

Me: “And I did a great job of manipulating them!”

Her: “Yes! You did do a great job of that!”

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Letting Go (Poem)

by Josh Billings on August 17, 2014

Let it go
from your mind
Let now be
a simpler time
Let it come
to you with ease
Let it be
a sweet release

In this moment
there’s a soulful
way to truly
get to know you
And it touches
on a feeling
that reflects your
inner being

If you reach out
and you grab it
you must change with it
to have it
For it’s not
a stagnant state
It’s evolving
with each day

Every desire
that you cast
Every wish
you’ve ever had
Culminates
into a you
That you’re wanting
to turn into

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Ask Josh: Is There a Balanced Approach Between the Law of Attraction and Action?

August 16, 2014

Today’s Ask Josh comes from a gentleman who had a question about the Law of Attraction group I run. I was wondering about this group and the Law of Attraction. I think there is a lot of truth to the idea that positive thoughts can help to attract positive things, but I have read some [...]

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Ask Josh: How Do You Stop Thinking About the One Who Got Away?

August 15, 2014

Josh: So you don’t feel good when you think about this person? Reader: Hmm I feel good when I remember the time we spent together, when I recreate those feelings, and when I imagine fantasies of being together; but I can’t help but hurt when I know he’s not here and will never be mine, [...]

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Small Self-Discoveries About Unconditional Love

August 12, 2014

“The reason you want to be someone who lives unconditional love is because you want to live love, and when you live conditional love it keeps you from love.” –Abraham This is so true. I was noticing today how conditional I was about so many things. Seldom can an hour of interacting with others go [...]

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Expanding Beyond Your Current Potential

August 11, 2014

Imagine yourself as a child before you made any major decisions about what to do with your life. If you were to map out every potential path you could’ve chosen it would look like a spider web spreading in all directions. That spider web is the web of your potential. The longer you live, the [...]

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